Question: By and Large, are we as black women supportive of one another’s weight loss efforts? Are we quick to encourage or find fault? Having run this site for a while, I’ve been impressed with and overwhelmed by the amount of love that I’ve witnessed. We really know how to lift each other up and share our successes & challenges with each other. However, I’ve also been dismayed at the negativity and judgement that we throw at each other when it comes to weight loss.
- Have you felt support from other black women as you strive to lose weight?
- How do you encourage other sisters to stay strong and commit to their goals?
- What does it mean to be supportive when you don’t agree with another sista’s choices?
- Should people criticize or keep their opinions to themselves?
I’d like to hear about your thoughts and experiences.
Lynnette Drew says
My friends and family really encouraging me as I go through this process. It really helps. It also feels really good when they notice that I am losing weight.
As a sister, I give credit where credit is due, as I will never envy or be jealous of anyone. So, when I notice they are losing weight, I will send an encouraging message. We all need to encourage each other.
Ms. Loser says
I have sisters that told me Hey! your fat but I tell them I don’t think so ( You don’t control me) and there are sisters who have always supported me even when I want to give up. They tell me to stay on track. Sometimes it good to have non supporters to show them that they were wrong all the time that makes me push even harder to let them know you don’t control this.
Jeanette says
Looking for a workout partner in Baltimore
angela says
July of this year i sent out a mass text to my sistas (friends) telling them the raw truth… i was disgusted with my self.. depressed and needed help.. told them i couldn’t do it alone..i was about to start my extreme makeover.. i asked if anyone wanted to help.. to be a personal trainer..nutrition help.. walking partner… even a cheerleader. They were and still is amazing!!! everyone responded with not just offers but they actually stepped up and did it with me. My best friend made a schedule… some walk with me(including my kids).. some took me to zumba(love it) got 1-1 nutrition counseling.. lost 25lbs since.. still have a long way to go but these sistas are still here.. they are AWESOME!!!! about to start a life challenge group in our community… wanted to share with other sistas the love and support. Pray for us.
Saundra says
That is so awesome. Support makes all the difference. Glad for you. Takes courage to even ask for help. Much success to you on your journey.
kammie says
My man is amazing….he tells me all the time that I am losing and I am on the right track. If I feel fat or call myself fat he reassures me I am not. He’s better than any gf, sister etc cause he is not jealous or hating. It helps we do it together as well. We share our numbers/ weight from doctor’s appts and congrats each other. Many people in our circle see us changing but, rather than saying good job, etc they say things like “oh I see your little check-ins” on fb. When the word little is in anything, it tells me you are hating..LOL just today someone at the gym told me how great Iook since she saw me at my 1st cycle class 3 months ago. I told her I do more classes now and thanks. I mean really a compliment from someone you don’t know is awesome!!! good luck gals and keep up the good work 🙂
Saundra says
I get a lot of support from both men and women. Tenants in the buildings where I live and walk/run outside are constantly telling me they see me and are so proud of me, keep it up, it shows, etc. I did my first 5k walk/jog yesterday and got fabulous support from the running group I’m a part of and most of them I had only met on the FB page. They call me inspiring because of my posts but they have helped me a lot. They are ALL younger than me. I just started running this year. NEVER, EVER ran for anything. EVER. My Florida cousin started walking/running last year and dropped 70 lbs. That did it for me. She ran 20 miles this morning BEFORE church! My children and grand children are cheering me on. Going back into training to do another 5k in December. Have walking partners for the weekends which is good. Would love to start a walking group here where I live. If I start to run into the negative, haters remarks, my reply will be, “and your point is???” No one has a nickel in my dime. I am always posting congrats to strangers on the various fitness sites/pages I belong to and if I can’t say something poositive for whatever reason, I don’t say anything. Doesn’t hurt or cost anything to be nice. By the way, I’m 64 years young and having a ball.
Lashelle says
This is a very interesting question. Over time I have had many women tell me how beautiful I am just the way I look. “You don’t need to lose anything”, “get over it, your fine”, “If your husband isn’t complaining, why are you worried about?”…and the list goes on. I’m not exactly sure what is the underlying motivation behind these comments. I do believe that they all want to be happy with myself. But it would be nice for someone to just say, “if you don’t feel good about where you are today, I support you my sista”. I am going to continue to strive to be better. I’m not where I want to be, but I’m certainly not where I used to be!