Do black women have a problem with the concept of being “thin”? I ask this question because of the reaction that always comes out when I post success stories where the before photo doesn’t show a woman who is “classically” overweight.
I understand that one woman’s before photo could be another woman’s after photo. For example, The 180 lbs that you want to decrease to 140 could be the goal weight of someone else who is 100 pounds heavier than you. I get that. What I’m trying to understand is the undertone of negativity that I hear when we comment on people who have “lost too much weight”. Can’t we just be positive and celebrate someone’s weight loss without finding fault?
I haven’t posted any photos of women who from a health standpoint are too skinny for good health. In fact, the traditional American standards of beauty may even say that many of the successful women I post are still quite heavy…but we don’t go by those standards for a number of reasons.
I’m rambling on. I’d just like to know your thoughts.
Debra Ann says
I think that if we can visualize a smaller size as we lose weight, we can do it. As I look forward to my journey from 431 to 215 to 180, I have to literally ask others what size they wear and how much they weigh. This way it helps me to know what ‘looking and being smaller is like. It’s a wholistic approach to wellness – mind, body and soul. I look forward to the journey. It can be done. I am proud of all of us who are striving and I know the persistence will pay off.
kisha says
dont know how other women feel but to me i dont want to be too skinny. i’d like to hang on to some curves awile longer. my weight doesnt move that much. i used to be in the 180s then 190s. started dating and went to the 200 hundred mark which i have stayed in ever since. i can drop one to six pounds but gain it right back. if you could see me you’d wouldnt think i weight alot but i do. its mostly my stomach that’s the problem. its bad when you sit down and your stomach meets your boobs. the biggest i ever weighed was when i was pregnant with my first child. 265 lbs. she was a nine lb baby. after which i came down to 235. still in the 200 range. i can wear some 16 to 18 clothes depending on how they’re made. if i go bigger than that it’ll be too big. what would you recommend?